Embrace the Gap

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Let’s talk about your ideal life versus your actual life. It’s an important idea because they’re both “real” in some sense. Neither one is 100% true, and neither is 100% false.

Your ideal life is unattainable. Not because you can’t ever have what you want, but if you got it, you’d very likely find a higher idea. It’s just our nature. And your actual life is full of real circumstances, but is also likely skewed by your opinion and interpretations of it. It’s probably a whole lot better than you’ll sometimes let yourself believe.

They both, however, represent something real. That which you strive for and the background which you strive against. Where you can get yourself into trouble is where you compare the two as a method of determining how your life going. Using the gap between them to prove to yourself that things aren’t going well, is almost always a losing proposition. I’ll tell you why.

When life is going well, by your estimation, you rarely compare it to anything. When you are fulfilled, you don’t spend time wondering how it could be because you’re happy the way it is. That doesn’t mean you’re not going to strive for anything, you’re just not comparing. When you do compare, is when you’ve decided things aren’t going well. And from that vantage point, your actual life will never make the cut against your ideal one.

There will always be some gap. Always, always, always. A gap is a good thing. If you don’t have a slightly uncomfortable one, I’d create one. But create one that empowers you to stretch, not one that makes you cringe in fear or despair. Use gaps as a way of declaring what’s possible.

The gap between ideal and actual is not something to fear. Without a gap you would start to shrink. There’s no such thing as “maintaining.” Even if you are on a “maintenance” program, you’re growing because you’re fighting the shrink. Time off from things is fine, but you know the feeling of getting back to it. We have a word for it. We often call it “rusty.” It’s not bad, but you can always tell when your capacity has been reduced.

Embrace the gap. Acknowledge your ideals. Just make sure you acknowledge your actuals as their equal. Your actual is as much your real life as your ideal. Your actual is the one you’re with every day, you’d do really well to make good friends with it.

And you know what the old song says, “If you can’t beeeee, with the one you loooove, love the one you’re with.”

Originally posted in the Whole Life Challenge blog 9/17/2014


Thursday’s Workout

A) For quality load in 15min
Heavy triple snatch-grip high pull

B) For quality load in 15min
Heavy triple snatch-grip jerk

C) 2 Rounds for quality
200m Run
200m Row

And Coming Friday


A) HSPU skill practice (10-15min)


B) 3 RFQ on the 6:00
200m Run
Max Effort Bench press (BW / ⅔ BW)
**2min cap each round**


C) For time with a partner (split equally)
600m Sandbag carry
60 Sandbag front squats
**1 person working at a time**
**Work may be completed in any order**
**12min cap**




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