Obliged or Committed?
Tuesday’s Workout (CAP)
42 Wall ball (20/14)
30 Wall ball
18 Wall ball
…and coming Wednesday (NO CAP)
400 Single unders
200 Single unders
100 Single undersWhen you make a commitment to do something, do you feel obliged to do it? Do you feel like you HAVE to do it or do you have freedom around it? I started thinking about it and wondered, what’s the difference between the two, commitment and obligation.
Here’s the definition of obliged from dictionary.com: “to place under a debt of gratitude for some benefit, favor, or service: I’m much obliged for the ride.“
And here’s the definition of committed: “to pledge or engage oneself: an athlete who commits to the highest standards.“
The way I see it now, the difference lies in the reason behind taking the action… because both will deliver actions. The person who feels obliged, feels that way because he/she has already been the recipient of some act of kindness and feels like they have to repay the act or person. Obligation, to me, means I am doing something because I should, it’s the right thing to do, I’m supposed to do it, and I need to repay something or someone who has done something for me. Commitment, on the other hand, comes out of nothing. With a commitment, there is nothing that I have to do, should do, or am supposed to do, nothing that needs to have happend because it is “right”, because the only person responsible for whatever it is I’ve committed to is me. There is total freedom with commitment… prison with obligation.
So here’s the million dollar question… how do you turn your obligations into commitments, to rid yourself of the necessity of doing something because you’re supposed to? Another question – do your commitments FEEL more like obligations? If so, why? I wish I had all the answers, I really do. I feel like I have a clear distinction between the two, but I’d love to hear your thoughts and your answers. Please post in comments.
Keith, getting some window shopping in during his WOD, wonders if his wife, Angie, would like that black leather studded collar for their new dog.